why men love bitches

I am just a woman so I react like many other women do when we are undergoing the process of breakup. Like, to read a tons of books on relationship.

"Why men love bitches" is apparently one of the hot picks.  However, as review on amazon suggested, this book could just as well have been written for men, and been titled, "Why Women Love Jerks."

This book helped me to retrospect my previous relationship because it outlined all the psychologies. But very unlikely it can do any help with my future relationship because if relationship is all about these secret tricks, then everybody, male and female, knows it now and there is no secret trick anymore. (BTW I deem it a logical trick itself when a book is selling its readers some secrets about something...) 

Relationship, all kind of relationship, friendship sisterhood boyfriend/girlfriend, is affectionate and passionate in nature. It is not a war. When you try to defense it is a war. 

Relationship is 1+1>2. If you feel like it may come out as 1+1<1, then you start defensing or protecting your original 1 and you are not in the relationship anymore. If you find yourself being always in the status of defensing or protecting your original 1 then you are a poor thing because you never know how graceful it is when you are trusting others while being trusted,  you are giving while receiving, you are loving while being loved.